Our daily lives are full of inspiration, and mine is no exception. A special person in my life recently came to me with a wonderful question: How do I deal with someone that challenges me?
This was one of those opportunities to delve deeper into this concept of challenge. Just by way of definition, a challenge is seemingly something difficult or may be “hard.” When we are faced with a challenge, does this mean that we are facing something we are sure to find terrible and unpleasant? What about a challenging person in our lives? Should we render this person a write off to be disliked and avoided simply because they challenge us?
Through my experience with yoga, I have come to not only appreciate but also enjoy a challenge. When I come to my mat to practice whether it’s alone or in a class setting, I always relish what may be in store for me that day. Regardless of what the poses are, I always expect to be challenged in my practice. After all, if there was no challenge then how would I ever see progress? That feeling after accomplishing something is unrivalled, whether it be in yoga or in anything you may gravitate to; completing a marathon, beating your best average in golf, or being on a winning competitive sports team. When we challenge ourselves in a healthy way we draw strength, growth, and we also learn.
Circling back to my conversation with my loved one about challenges, it all started to become clear. When something or someone challenges us, maybe that ‘thing’ is there for a reason. Sure, there will be things that are easy, and people that just do as we say; and that’s okay. However, does that ease move us forward? Is staying in our comfort zones really wise all of the time? Maybe we need some influences that perhaps seem difficult, but therein lies the beauty; for it is these challenges where life’s lessons may be truly learned.
So climb the mountain; go outside of your comfort zone from time to time. Surround yourself with people who don’t always agree with you, for they may provide a perspective that you never considered. Sometimes we need to lean into our discomfort to discover something new and wonderful.
“A comfort zone is the most dangerous area anyone can stay in. It is a place of no growth and no challenges’ Brian Cagneey